The thing about regret

Life's a process

Regret [ri-gret]

Verb (used with object), re·gret·ted, re·gret·ting.

  1. to feel sorrow or remorse for (an act, fault, disappointment, etc.):
  2. to think of with a sense of loss:

Noun

  1. a sense of loss, disappointment, dissatisfaction, etc.
  2. a feeling of sorrow or remorse for a fault, act, loss, disappointment, etc.

How many of you regret moments of your past?

Maybe you regret wearing that “in style” shirt a few years back.

Maybe you regret letting something roll off your tongue before thinking about what you were saying.

Or maybe you regret certain things you did in a relationship — whether it was with a close friend, family member, or significant other.


In my personal experience, there have been many times I’ve said things without thinking about how they come across.

To me, what I am saying makes perfect sense. But to another person, it can come off the complete wrong way.

I’m not kidding, I still think about things I said when I was in elementary, middle, and high school! (For reference, that means I still think about things I said from at least 3 years ago).


The hardest things to do is acknowledge that what you’re spending your time dwelling on is in the past and cannot be changed.

Even though it’s tough, you can’t go through life holding on to moments in your past that you wish you could take back.


I know that for me specifically, there are not only small regrets I tend to hold on to, but big as well.

Sometimes I catch myself saying, “If I had only done [this]…then [that] would (or wouldn’t) have happened.”


What I have come to realize is you can’t change what has been done

You can’t go back and have a “redo.”

And you can’t change the hurt feelings or broken hearts.

All you can do is learn from your mistakes, and devote time to better the parts of yourself that need more attention.


Here’s the thing about regret…

EVERYONE experiences it at some point.

We all make mistakes and struggle with certain things.

But you are NOT your mistakes and struggles. They do not define you.

You live life in the here and now — with all the power and strength in the world to shape your future the way you want it to be.

 

Until next time,

Haley

 

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